Flexible

Same word, different meanings:

Dictionary--
flex·i·ble
adj.
1. a. Capable of being bent or flexed; pliable; b. Capable of being bent repeatedly without injury or damage.

2. Susceptible to influence or persuasion; tractable.

3. Responsive to change; adaptable:

Thesaurus--
Flexible
Adj.
1. flexible - capable of being changed; "flexible schedules"

2. flexible - able to flex; able to bend easily; "slim flexible birches"
flexile
elastic - capable of resuming original shape after stretching or compression; springy; "an elastic band"; "a youthful and elastic walk"

3. flexible - able to adjust readily to different conditions; "an adaptable person"; "a flexible personality"; "an elastic clause in a contract"
elastic, pliable, pliant
adaptable - capable of adapting (of becoming or being made suitable) to a particular situation or use; "to succeed one must be adaptable"; "the frame was adaptable to cloth bolts of different widths"

4. flexible - bending and snapping back readily without breaking
whippy
elastic - capable of resuming original shape after stretching or compression; springy; "an elastic band"; "a youthful and elastic walk"

5. flexible - making or willing to make concessions; "loneliness tore through him...whenever he thought of...even the compromising Louis du Tillet"
compromising, conciliatory

My boyfriend seems to want me to be flexible, as in: capable of being changed, susceptible to influence or persuasion (by him), and willing to make concessions (to him, and completely one-sided).

I want to be flexible, as in: capable of adapting, responsive to change, adaptable, capable of being bent repeatedly without injury.

I see no reason to be a spineless jellyfish. I am no one's rag doll and I never shall be anyone's rag doll. I really don't see how he can possibly expect anyone to be his rag doll. It's beyond ridiculous and it pisses me off.

My leaning thus far has been to try to show him how ridiculous he is being. But after a year and a half of this with no relief, I think I'm just going to have to give up on him. He is hellbent on expecting a reality that does not exist (and I, too, have my unrealities I am hellbent towards), so I guess that's that.

How long will this last? I don't know. Which one of us will jump ship first, out of frustration? I don't know. Will he find what he is looking for in someone else? I hope not because no one should be someone else's rag doll. That's just plain unhealthy for both parties involved.

Now what?